New Year, New Mindset!

New Year, New Mindset!

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“If you want to change the fruits, you will first have to change the roots. If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible.” – T. Harv Eker. 

Happy New Year! What better time to tune up your mindset and make sure you’re not falling victim to that old business plague – self-sabotage! Sometimes, in spite of knowing better, our old negative self-talk can creep back in. Then, before we know it, we’re stuck in a rut of negative thinking that leads to negative actions that create negative results! 

Although there are endless numbers of negative beliefs and attitudes, four are common among entrepreneurs – business fear, criticism, procrastination and perfectionism. So let’s do an annual check-up and maintenance on each:

1. Business Fears

Follow the advice of Eleanor Roosevelt: “Every day, do something that scares you.”

What is it that all successful entrepreneurs have in common? We all take action! By moving through our fears, starting small and working up to the biggies, we start to see that fears are usually based on – nothing real! We learn the difference between negative tapes playing in our head and a truly risky situation. Surprisingly, there are not many of the latter. Most fears really are “all in your mind.” Our fears are manipulators that come out as procrastination, glitches, mistakes, distractions – things that keep us stuck.

How to Overcome Business Fears

1. Make a list of things that you fear about running a business, such as fear of failure, of marketing, bookkeeping, networking, and so forth. Go ahead – write it down; no one else will see it! 

2. Pick one item from your list daily, starting with the least scary thing. If you’re truly terrified, break it down into baby steps! Write down the activity you did to move through the fear. 

2. Coping with Criticism

“The only way some people will get a taste of success is to take a bite out of you.” – Zig Ziglar.

When you play a bigger game, it will make some people uncomfortable – even those close to you. When feeling uncomfortable with someone else’s success, many people will become negative or critical. Someone else winning makes them feel like losers! When we see someone doing, being or getting more, it can make us feel left in the dust.

What does this have to do with marketing your health biz? When your marketing efforts result in more success and more income, people around you might feel threatened. And feeling “less than” may make them criticize you – either to your face or behind your back.

People who feel badly about themselves will try to feel better by bringing you down, trying to re-establish the status quo, to get back to old familiar ways.

How to Overcome Criticism

Here are a few ways to cope when you get unfair criticism from insecure people:

1. Remember that it’s not about you; it is their envy, jealousy, insecurity, negativity. Promise yourself that you will not undermine your success by trying to meet other people’s approval. 

2. Allow yourself to vent if you feel hurt or angry. Set a time limit to feel sorry for yourself, then move on to more important stuff!

3. Write a letter to the mean person, but don’t mail it – burn it and watch the criticism go up in smoke!

4. Smile and sweetly thank the mean person, then walk away. “Thank you for your interest in my business. You take care now. Bye!”

Don’t let your business confidence get undermined by other people’s reactions to your change and growth. Simply being aware of what such criticism is really about goes a long way toward not letting it interfere with your goals and progress.

3. Procrastination

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Does procrastination ever stop you from moving forward? If you’re like me, you can come up with very good reasons not to do certain things – not enough time, not enough skills – the standard lame excuses! And so I put off doing that which needs to be done. We are probably all guilty of this at some time!

Procrastination is not laziness. It is fear – fear of the unknown, fear of criticism, fear of overwhelm, fear of failure. We’ve all experienced procrastination at one time or another. Let’s look at a few ways to deal with it: 

1. Start small. If you can’t do a lot, do a little. Do a little bit – lots of times – consistently – until finished!

2. Be accountable. Tell someone what you’re doing and ask them to check in with you at a specific time. 

3. Set specific goals. Vague intentions create vague results. Organize one shelf. When? Now. For how long? 15 minutes. Celebrate completion! One shelf done = one piece of chocolate! 

4. Avoid time-suckers, such as email. Specify a time for every daily business task and write it into your schedule. For instance, I do Facebook morning and evening for 10 minutes.

5. Just do it! Don’t wait until you have enough time, until you have enough money, until the cows come home. You know you have to do it sooner or later, so JFDI – Just Flippin’ Do It!

How will you get past procrastination? And how will you celebrate?

4. Perfectionism

“Hi, I’m Donna and I’m a recovering perfectionist!” One of the hardest things for me is to do is finish something, be okay with it and be done with it. 

Perfectionism is related to procrastination. While procrastination is about not getting started, perfectionism is more about not finishing! Both are fear-based – fear of making a mistake or fear of rejection, for example.

Are you a victim of Perfection Paralysis when it comes to marketing your health business? Do you get an idea and start working on it, work on it some more, and then more? 

If I had waited until everything was perfect before moving forward with The Prosperous Practice, we wouldn’t be here now. You’re reading this now because I got over myself and became an imperfectionist! 

This is how the Laws of the Universe operate: You don’t wait for everything to come together and then commit. No, it’s the opposite – first you commit and then it happens! Waiting for perfection can kill your business! Your practice will not achieve optimum success if you wait for everything to be perfect before stepping out. If you wait for perfection, you will never finish. Here’s how to become an imperfectionist:

1. Choose one project from your to-do list. You may have trouble picking just one, but do not proceed until you have narrowed it down to just one thing.

2. Set a timer for 30 minutes.

3. Spend the entire 30 minutes working non-stop on the activity, with no distractions.

4. Set the timer again tomorrow and work non-stop for 30 minutes on your activity.

5. Repeat the process every day until the project is imperfectly complete. 

6. Celebrate the completion – reward yourself!

7. Go back to #1 and start over. Choose another item from your to-do list….There will always be room for improvement and more to do. But you can learn to be satisfied with things as they are, while still striving for more and better, instead of waiting to achieve perfection before you are satisfied. 

Successful entrepreneurs claim their key to success is: Take Imperfect Action! Implementation is one of the main components in the formula for success!

What beliefs have you accumulated over your lifetime that no longer serve you? What money and business attitudes hold you back? What have you learned about replacing self-sabotage beliefs with positive action? As you progress through your career and through your life, continue to identify and break through the self-doubt and limiting beliefs that stand between you and success. It all starts with a decision to change your mindset – to think differently, act differently and therefore attract differently!

“If you want to change the fruits, you will first have to change the roots. If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible.” – T. Harv Eker.

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