New Years Mindset Tune-Up!
Happy New Year! What better time to tune up your mindset and make sure you’re not falling victim to that old business plague – self-sabotage! Sometimes, in spite of knowing better, our old negative self-talk can creep back in. Then, before we know it, we’re stuck in a rut of negative thinking that leads to negative actions that create negative results!
Although there are endless numbers of negative beliefs and attitudes, four are common among entrepreneurs – business fear, criticism, procrastination and perfectionism. So let’s do an annual check-up and maintenance on each:
1. Business Fears
Follow the advice of Eleanor Roosevelt: “Every day, do something that scares you.”
What is it that all successful entrepreneurs have in common? We all take action! By moving through our fears, starting small and working up to the biggies, we start to see that fears are usually based on – nothing real! We learn the difference between negative tapes playing in our head and a truly risky situation. Surprisingly, there are not many of the latter. Most fears really are “all in your mind.” Our fears are manipulators that come out as procrastination, glitches, mistakes, distractions – things that keep us stuck.
How to Overcome Business Fears
1. Make a list of things that you fear about running a business, such as fear of failure, of marketing, bookkeeping, networking, and so forth. Go ahead – write it down; no one will see it!
2. Pick one item from your list daily, starting with the least scary thing. If you’re truly terrified, break it down into baby steps! Write down the activity you did to move through the fear.
Does procrastination ever stop you from moving forward? If you’re like me, you can come up with very good reasons not to do certain things – not enough time, not enough skills – the standard lame excuses! And so I put off doing that which needs to be done. We are probably all guilty of this at some time!
Procrastination is not laziness. It is fear – fear of the unknown, fear of criticism, fear of overwhelm, fear of failure. We’ve all experienced procrastination at one time or another. Let’s look at 10 ways to deal with it:
How to Overcome Procrastination
This exercise is similar to the previous one, but instead of small and large fears about money and success, you are dealing with business activities that you keep pushing to the back burner. Here are a few ways to overcome procrastination:
1. Start small. If you can’t do a lot, do a little. Do a little bit lots of times consistently until finished.
2. Be accountable. Tell someone what you’re doing and ask them to check in with you at a specific time.
3. Set specific goals. Vague intentions create vague results. Organize one shelf. When? Now. For how long? 15 minutes. Celebrate completion! One shelf done = one piece of chocolate!
4. Avoid time-suckers, such as email. Specify a time for every business task and write it into your schedule.
5. Just do it! Don’t wait until you have enough time, until you have enough money, until the cows come home. You know you have to do it sooner or later, so JFDI – Just Flippin’ Do It!
How will you get past procrastination? And how will you celebrate?
“The only way some people will get a taste of success is to take a bite out of you.” – Zig Ziglar.
When you play a bigger game, it will make some people uncomfortable – even those close to you. When feeling uncomfortable with someone else’s success, many people will become negative or critical. Someone else winning makes them feel like losers! When we see someone doing, being or getting more, it can make us feel left in the dust.
What does this have to do with marketing your health biz? When your marketing efforts result in more success and more income, people around you might feel threatened. And feeling “less than” may make them criticize you – either to your face or behind your back.
People who feel badly about themselves will try to feel better by bringing you down, trying to re-establish the status quo, to get back to old familiar ways.
How to Overcome Criticism
Here are a few ways to cope when you get unfair criticism from insecure people:
Remember that it’s not about you; it is their envy, jealousy, insecurity, negativity. Promise yourself that you will not undermine your success by trying to meet other people’s approval.
Allow yourself to vent if you feel hurt or angry. Set a time limit to feel sorry for yourself, then move on to more important stuff!
Write a letter to the mean person, but don’t mail it – burn it and watch the criticism go up in smoke!
Smile and thank the mean person, then walk away. “Thank you for your interest in my business. You take care now. Bye!”
Don’t let your business confidence get undermined by other people’s reactions to your change and growth. Simply being aware of what such criticism is really about goes a long way toward not letting it interfere with your goals and progress.
“Hi, I’m Donna and I’m a recovering perfectionist!” One of the hardest things in life for me is to do something, be okay with it and be done with it.
Perfectionism is related to procrastination. While procrastination is about not getting started, perfectionism is more about never finishing! Both are fear-based – of making a mistake, of rejection, for example.
Are you a victim of Perfection Paralysis when it comes to marketing your health business? Do you get an idea and start working on it, work on it some more, and then more?
If I had waited until everything was perfect before moving forward with The Prosperous Practice, we wouldn’t be here now. You’re reading this now because I got over myself and became an imperfectionist!
This is how the Laws of the Universe operate: You don’t wait for everything to come together and then commit. No, it’s the opposite – first you commit and then it happens!
Waiting for perfection can kill a business! Your practice will not achieve optimum success if you wait for everything to be perfect before stepping out. If you wait for perfection, you will never finish.
How to Overcome Perfection Paralysis
Read and understand the following concepts. Think about situations in your business when you did not follow these principles. What did you learn from these mistakes? Jot down your answers to the questions below and refer to them frequently.
– Imperfect action is better than perfect non-action: Is there something you’re not moving forward with because it isn’t yet “perfect?”
– Perfectionism and procrastination both avoid action. What are you avoiding, even though you know it would help your business?
– Take small steps toward a big goal. What big scary project can you break down into smaller chunks?
– Celebrate each accomplishment – even if it’s not perfect. What little treat will you give yourself for finishing a small task? What big reward for a major project?
– Know that the satisfaction of completion is the real reward. What challenge did you complete and how did that make you feel?
– Understand that there are no mistakes – just lessons. What is a lesson that you learned from a mistake? Did you have an opportunity to get it right?
There will always be room for improvement and more to do. But you can learn to be satisfied with things as they are, while still striving for more and better, instead of waiting to achieve perfection before you are satisfied.
Successful entrepreneurs claim their key to success is: Take Imperfect Action! Implementation is one of the main components in the formula for success!